Beware of questions that sound like questions but aren’t really questions: “What were you thinking?” “How could you have said that to me?” “Why didn’t you call me?”
Read More“NVC does not mandate that we main completely objective and refrain from evaluating. It only requires that we maintain a separation between our observations and evaluations.”
Read MoreIf your default view of the world and what constitutes a ‘good life' is through a human-centric lens, you will inevitably understand ‘needs' through that same lens. You will devise strategies to meet your needs
Read MoreThe challenge of our time is to pay attention, to learn how to employ one's mind, to deprogram it from the regime colluding indoctrination it has been subjected to, and to become discerning in a manner that
Read MoreI need to entertain the very real possibility that the indoctrination I have been subjected to might be so profound, so thorough, and so persuasive that I don’t have a solid grasp of the landscape
Read MoreWe are each one of us entitled to our own opinions, viewpoints and paradigms .. so we say and so we're told. The trouble is .. our opinions, viewpoints and theories
Read MoreFrom the crib to the daycare centre to the classroom to the boardroom to the bank to the retail outlet and back and forth between these various prisons and finally to the senior’s residence and
Read MoreThe art of deep relating requires that we in fact take things personally but that at the same time we recognize our personal selves to be deeply imbedded in a larger ecology of organic symbiotic relatedness.
Read MoreI can't help but wonder what the word would be to describe a class or culture of people who are content with simply having enough? Who are deeply capable of appreciating what
Read MoreRosenberg’s thought provoking statements were important signposts, and they still are. It’s not too late, at least in the context of appreciating and honouring his
Read MoreLet’s recognize that questions like how do I get my child to cooperate, or how do I get my partner to open up, or how do I deal with anger are best approached holistically. Interdependence and interconnection IS the way of life.
Read MoreOne of the pitfalls however of understanding NVC as being primarily about empathy is that if some quantifiable measure of mutual openness and connection doesn’t result from an exchange where at
Read MoreThat’s right. Ruin relationships! We could also call it the Thomas Edison approach .. a few tips on how not to light up the faces of those you love. For those who might be curious, here are some time-tested strategies:
Read MoreRosenberg could easily be described as a man, who to many, was the bearer of profound radical insights of the variety that could significantly change lives.
Read MoreWhat does it mean I wonder to live the life I've been dreaming of with all its accoutrements, to feel "healthy" or "empowered" or "successful" or attract more clients if the world around me is quietly and even sometimes not so quietly crumbling?
Read MoreOur freedom is an anomalous one. We are about as free as frogs in the proverbial cooking pot heating to slow boil. And in spite of our predicament, we need relationships, we need each other ..
Read More"Our repertoire of words for calling people names is often larger than our vocabulary of words that allow us to clearly describe our emotional states" says Rosenberg.
Read MoreWithout trust, anything that people attempt to achieve together will fail or at least be poorly executed. The mark of good teamwork is the ever deepening awareness of how each and every move,
Read MoreMature love does not discriminate against feeling .. it grants entry to the full astonishing bandwidth, saying yes to the mayhem and the labour. Love holds us
Read MoreMay you fall madly in love this year .. in love with someone who unhinges your tired trajectory, in love with a spouse of several years who might be aching for lightning,
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