Practicing a new way of communicating is not alway easy and presents a fair bit of challenge. To support people in their ongoing learning and integration of the NVC process, I invite you to freely download and print the 2 resources below.
The Rescue Card (best printed 2-sided on card stock - 3 cards per sheet) can be placed in your home or office for quick retrieval. Let's face it, there are plenty of times when we get triggered and it's crucial during those moments to NOT bite the hook and fall prey to those predicatably painful and destructive ways of relating that we have in the past. This card will help you halt the habit and re-establish a healthier pattern during those challenging times. In a heated moment, just hold the card in front of you and read the side that says, "Wow, I need to stop right now ..."
The Needs & Feelings List (best printed 2-sided on card stock) can also be strategically placed in your home or office as a quick reference guide. Share it with family, friends and colleagues to help increase the possibility of people speaking authentically on the basis of human universal needs which is where connection must take place for empathy and compassion to come to the fore. Study this list often and before you know it you won't need it at all!
Let me know how these work for you!
Learning these tools has made such a difference in my life! I am experiencing far more peace and ease in my relationships and am able to hear people's messages without resorting to former habitual knee-jerk reactions.